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Spotting these people is tough because they seem so genuine and enthusiastic. They express assumptions about the depth of your relationship with them long before it’s appropriate.
When your goal is to make a clean break from the person who won’t let go (or any prospect, for that matter), never argue or defend yourself.
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Here are the Internet-appropriate ways to say no: Note that Internet dating sites vary in the sophistication of their features.
On some sites, the person knowsthat you received his or her e-mail and read it.
The Internet-appropriate action to take is to simply say“I need to stop now. If it’s an argument telling you why you are a match, simply sign off. Regarding the third action, no stranger is worth any emotional investment on your part, especially negative ones. If someone has really incensed you, avoid further trouble even though you’re anonymous. They are unlikely to go postal on you, but some people are sufficiently sick to do some serious libel and slander.
As I know it has for many diagnosed with HIV."—Joshua "I recently joined the site to simply peruse the personals in search of other poz men.The appropriate actions to take include Occasionally, you’ll run into people who just won’t stop contacting you even after you’ve rejected them.Most often, people don’t let go because they’ve developed fantasies from your photo and essay.When someone just won’t quit bothering you and all else fails, you have to dispense with being polite.Just as dogs get only one bite (actually, they don’t get any free bites), your discouraged suitor gets only one “apology” from you. The following line is pretty darn effective but only use it as a last resort:“You need to know that if you attempt to contact me again, I’ll report your activities as an abuse to the dating site.